How to Help Parents Stay at Home Longer

As aging parents creep past retirement age and into their 70s and 80s, adult children are faced with the same conundrum: how can they enable their mothers and fathers to stay in their homes longer, rather than send their loved one to a retirement home or similar...

Combating Compassion Fatigue with Technology

Caregiving is a rewarding activity, but it can also be very emotionally and physically draining. Compassion fatigue among caregivers is common, which can lead to burnout, depression, and exhaustion. Not only are these symptoms draining on the caregiver, but over time,...

This advice on ALZ changed my life

There's a lot of advice on how to care for someone with Alzheimer's without, well, losing your mind. Not a lot of it works. I was a very earnest child. My poor parents had to deal with me taking things very literally. I still want to correct every mistake and...

Track Your Caregiving Feelings In a Journal

Caregiving can be so demanding that we lose track of our feelings. When my husband was dismissed to my care after eight months of hospitalization, I felt a dizzying array of feelings. Of course I was elated to have him home, but I was scared too, and wondered if I had...

How to Care for an Elderly Hoarder

Have you ever passed by one of those houses where the crooked garage doors are barely holding themselves together over the heaping bulge behind them? Then one day, on your usual stroll of the neighborhood, those garage doors are popped wide open for the whole world to...

Why does mom have bruises?

Having a parent or grandparent in a nursing home can be incredibly difficult, especially when so many of us have promised we'd keep them at home forever. So often residential care hardly feels like it reduces the amount of time we spend caregiving, with all the...

Finding my reset button

It has taken me almost 10 years to figure out that I actually have a reset button and that I'm allowed to hit it when needed! My husband has a C4/C5 spinal cord injury and as his primary caregiver for going on 10 years, along with caring physically (alone) for our...

Lifting patients, safely

Caregivers are at risk for back injuries. That's a fact. People who've never done it might imagine caregiving is holding hands, making soup, and saying reassuring things. If only! Caregiving can be incredibly physically demanding. Getting someone in and out of bed...

Can I get paid to be a family caregiver?

It’s a question I’m asked all the time by family caregivers: Can I get paid to be a family caregiver? It’s usually accompanied by qualifiers: I’m not trying to be greedy, but I had to quit my job to take care of my mom. My husband isn’t comfortable having a stranger...

How Can Young Caregivers Self-Advocate?

In the United States, there are an estimated 1.4 million caregiving youth (children under the age of 18), and nearly 10 million Millennial caregivers (aged 18-34 years old). Of the millions of young caregivers, I believe every single one is an advocate. Advocacy means...

Mother’s Day activities for active seniors

Some of us care for a mom who isn't able to participate in a big celebration, but other seniors are able to get out and active with some accommodations and planning. Family caregivers looking after their moms can make Mother’s Day extra special. After all, these women...

How I keep going

Resilience. Tenacity. Strength. Toughness. Whatever you want to call it, caregivers need it. It's that thing about your personality where shit is exploding all around you and you just roll with it. Roll up your sleeves and get to it, every day, no matter what. Inner...

Elder Financial Abuse Hurts Caregivers, Too

The emotional and monetary consequences of elder financial abuse take a toll on caregivers as well as seniors directly victimized, Allianz Life said Monday in releasing findings of a new study. A vast majority of both active and prospective caregivers reported that...

How do we cope with anger as a caregiver?

We all recognize that caregiving is a complex task. It can bring a new closeness with the person you are caring for. It can inevitably bring a flood of emotions including compassion, nostalgia, gratitude, devotion, frustration, grief, sadness, love, guilt, and anger....

About to burn out? Try this.

When we first become caregivers or when there's a new emergency, we go into super hero mode. You know what I mean: you do it all, without stopping, at the same time. Nothing can stop you, until you can't keep it up. It's unsustainable. You can only suck it up and...

Hey, doc, what will that cost me?

No matter how great your physician is, there is one question he or she is unlikely to answer: "How much will that cost?" It is not really doctors' fault. Medical schools and residency training programs have traditionally shied away from teaching costs. For the most...

Guilt vs. Grace

In the face of overwhelming odds, we put ourselves in an often impossible situation, and keep doing it armed with little else than love—while spending blood, sweat, and treasure. I wouldn't hang around somebody who treats me the way I treat myself, and I’ll bet you...

This is why you can’t catch up on lost sleep

After a long week of barely any rest, it’s tempting to want to stay in bed all weekend, but is it possible to catch up on hours of missed sleep? Unfortunately, most research and experts say no. Sleep debt, like credit card debt, is a real thing, except with sleep, you...

Laughing Until You Die

Humor May Be Antidote For Pain Of Death For Patients, Survivors Just weeks before Christmas some years ago, Shirley Rapp and her family faced the devastating news that she had what appeared to be a terminal illness. But that didn’t stop Rapp from wanting to do one...

The ‘Troops’ Who Support Our Troops

In 1983, a ground-breaking white paper by then-Chief of Staff of the Army General John A. Wickham Jr. on the importance of increasing support to the Army family put into motion the Army Family Action Plan, or AFAP. General Wickham asserted that a healthy family...

What Hospitals Waste

ProPublica Share on Facebook Share on Twitter Comment Donate What Hospitals Waste The nation’s health care tab is sky-high. We’re tracking down the reasons. First stop: A look at all the perfectly good stuff hospitals throw away. by Marshall Allen, ProPublica Photos...

How life insurance can pay for long-term care

Even as aging Americans revel in the splendor of their well-earned retirements they still harbor plenty of worries, such as outliving their savings. Near the top of the worry list is the fear their health will deteriorate so much they’ll be forced to seek long-term...