What’s caregiving really like for me?

Well it changes from day to day and hour to hour sometimes.

I’ve been married 56 years to Rick on March 16th. He has many health issues… stoke, open heart surgeries, infections, etc. He is homebound right now.

Sometimes I feel like there isn’t enough of me to go around. I’m tired, exhausted, but most of the time I’m happy and we have a good life when he is not in the hospital with major issues.

I am a poet, so I still squeeze in time to write and put my stuff out there.

Right now hubby is sleeping in a recliner due to congestive heart failure… they have put in a foley to try and keep him out of the hospital yet again… so I am on call and don’t get much rest. I’m constantly trying to help him get comfortable. Always have my gloves and wipes handy and all kinds of powder and creams… I give shots for diabetes three times a day.

We have home health right now for OT and PT and nurse. We also have a mobile physician for primary care.

I don’t feel isolated as I have family close by that help out when not working… also we live in a motor home in an RV community so lots of neighbors.

They all have their lives though… we keep in touch with friends on Facebook. Hubby has an iPad so he enjoys that.

There are lots of follow up phone calls from pharmacy and nurses, etc.

I feel like we have settled in after 10 years of caregiving for hubby.

Before that I took care of my parents and two aunties and Ricks mom.

In between and before his stroke we had some wonderful travels to the beaches around Florida. We walked the beach and fished daily. Met lots of interesting friends who we keep in touch with.

We both feel like we have had a good life.

My morning ritual is:

  • Emergen-C
  • Krill oil
  • Vitamins
  • Co Q ten
  • A vitamin shake from Medifast
  • Two hard boiled eggs or oatmeal
  • Orange juice
  • Probiotics

So far I have avoided any winter cold or illness, which I was exposed to daily as hubby was in the hospital and rehab from September to mid January. It’s very exhausting to keep up that pace of visiting daily.

Then when he was almost ready to get home they over dosed him on morphine and he almost died… that’s another story. So he is fighting his way back from that. It is being investigated by the state.

Theresa Loder

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