We would like to add our voice to the millions of others saddened at Robin’s passing.
His family and friends were privy to the magnitude of his disease. Dealing with the daily implications of addiction and depression takes heroic effort. Our thoughts and prayers are with those closest to him. Their loss is unfathomable. He was certainly bigger than life.
Robin Williams was a publicly troubled soul. His dependence on drugs and alcohol and his many attempts at recovery received a great deal of press. Under no circumstances is this tragic loss to be minimized as just another celebrity succumbing to the power of substance abuse. The man was depressed. As caregivers, we can be all too familiar with caregiver depression and how hard it is to deal with. Whether we are caring for someone who suffers or we are struggling with our own hopelessness, this prevalent form of mental illness has a great stigma attached to it. This stigma only adds to the problem.
There are people who believe that you should be able to will yourself out of depression; that it is a condition of choice—an easy excuse.
As someone who has been both depressed and has cared for a spouse with severe depression, I want to acknowledge those of you who, as carers, live with the reality of the severity of this condition every day. It is hardly an easy excuse. It’s painful. Sometimes it’s a triggered by physical illnesses with names like cancer or heart disease; but frequently it is the disease and those caring for someone who is depressed often go unacknowledged. We recognize you and want you to know we are here for you.
Depression. It’s a “brain disease” according to Dr. Drew, the celebrity rehab expert, who wants everyone to accept the fact that “Addiction and depression can be fatal.” We know caring for someone with depression can be frustrating because they want to shut us out so they can suffer silently; this leaves us to suffer as well.
I can attest to the feelings of loneliness and despair I felt and can speak of my own problems with alcohol and drugs, that finally led to a diagnosis of depression. This all happened a very long time ago; now I can listen, and encourage people to be more open about their depression and the many forms it takes.
I know I never felt that I was taking the easy way out; it took courage to face each and every day.
Robin made us laugh. He made us cry. He touched us. His was a talent is one we will not see the likes of again and he will be sorely missed. Tragically, he couldn’t be saved and who knows whether mental illness will ever be a thing of the past. But, one thing we can do is to raise public awareness of a disease that affects an estimated 30 million Americans. It’s time we dispensed with the stigma of this disease and faced the dangerous reality of ignoring it. Depression isn’t funny.