It’s rare when there’s a gift that’s perfect for 99.9% of any group of people, especially one as diverse as caregivers. But there’s one gift nearly ever caregiver is hoping you’ll give them:
We’re hoping you’ll call and say:
- You’re free this weekend and would love to keep an eye on mom.
- You can take her to the doctor’s the next few appointments.
- You’re running to the store and would be happy to pick up whatever I need.
- You’re going to come mow the lawn this week, so what time works for me?
Those gifts are difficult to wrap, though. Here are our suggestions for something you can put under the tree.
From the relaxing to the irreverent, there’s quite a selection of adult coloring books to choose from. They’re a great way to relax, as well as keep care recipients entertained
There’s a wealth of information out there about caregiving written by people who’ve been there, done that. Just be sure your attempt to help doesn’t come across as criticism.
Inspiration and affirmations
We all have days when we need something to pick us up and keep us going. These books have real words of hope and motivation from other caregivers.
Time for introspection
Journaling is both a wonderful activity for caregivers of parents or grandparents and a way to wind down after a long day. Caregivers so often get wrapped up in putting one foot in front of the other that we lose sight of the big picture.
A great companion gift is the promise to help out for an hour or two every week to give them time to write.
Peace of mind
Caregiving is incredibly emotionally difficult. As someone who hasn’t been a caregiver, it can be difficult to understand, but that doesn’t mean you can’t be supportive. Pair a helpful book with plans to get together and just chat, as well as the offer to help them run an errand or two each week.
Caregiving can both strengthen and challenge relationships. Here are some tools to bring people together.
A good rest
It’s tough to get a good night of sleep with constant interruptions and so many things to worry about.
We’d love you to be there each day to give us a hand and some support, but there are other ways to let us know you’re thinking of us every day.
I’m generally not a fan of gift cards, as I either fail to actually use them or end up buying things I don’t really want. Gift cards to places you know they shop at — be it their favorite store or something practical like their local grocery store, pharmacy, Amazon, and Target. See if they’d like a cleaning company sent over once a month or a laundry service. See if they’d like to be signed up for a meal delivery service. Don’t just ask “what do you need?” ask if x, y, or z would be better for them.
If you don’t have the money, perhaps you have the time to help them run errands, keeping the care recipient comfortable for a few hours, or cleaning up the yard. Sure, maybe you’re not up for the hands-on part of family caregiving, but we all have those things on our list we just can’t get to. There’s the porch that needs a fresh coat of paint, the light fixture that needs to be replaced, and all those other chores that pile up. Lending a hand at the things you’re good at would be much appreciated.