Who we’re taking care of

Who we’re taking care of

Caregiving effects everyone. Our community members are taking care of many different people with many different conditions and ability levels. Who are you taking care of? My son. He just turned 18 last week. Autistic. Nonverbal, not toilet trained. He’s...
How caregivers cope with stress

How caregivers cope with stress

Coping with stress is a constant challenge for caregivers. Coping mechanisms that are actually realistic for caregivers is a pretty frequent topic of conversation. Here are some of the suggestions that came up recently. Small treats After the day I had, tonight it was...
Lifting patients, safely

Lifting patients, safely

Caregivers are at risk for back injuries. That’s a fact. People who’ve never done it might imagine caregiving is holding hands, making soup, and saying reassuring things. If only! Caregiving can be incredibly physically demanding. Getting someone in and...
How I keep going

How I keep going

Resilience. Tenacity. Strength. Toughness. Whatever you want to call it, caregivers need it. It’s that thing about your personality where shit is exploding all around you and you just roll with it. Roll up your sleeves and get to it, every day, no matter what....
The bath time struggle

The bath time struggle

It’s a pretty common problem: the person you’re caring for is refusing to bathe. Here’s advice from other caregivers on how to keep everyone clean, safe, and happy. What’s normal to them We have to remember that more than likely “back in...
Moment of Frustration

Moment of Frustration

Feeling frustrated? Believe it or not, today is Moment of Frustration Scream Day. The idea is to go outside at noon and yell it out of your system. I didn’t make it up, but Tom and Ruth Roy did. They’ve apparently been making up holidays left and right and...
Dating as a caregiver

Dating as a caregiver

When you’re taking care of someone it can seem impossible to find time to eat, sleep, and bathe — nevermind look for love. It isn’t easy, but there are other caregivers out there who are going on dates and embarking on new relationships. Remember,...
The thing they never named

The thing they never named

When did the problems begin? By high school she ran away from home. She told me about it. Listening to Bach, windows rolled down, hair streaming in the breeze, done with her old life, driving without stopping, destination Florida. That’s what I now know to be a...
Caregiving and recovery

Caregiving and recovery

Feel familiar? Sometimes I suspect my husband can do more than he says. When I ask him to help a little bit with the chores, or even just cleaning up after himself, he can’t find the energy. But when his friends invite him out, he manages to rally for a few...