The only constant in caregiving is change

The only constant in caregiving is change

Like life, caregiving is a roller coaster.

Imagine how you feel on a roller coaster. You start of slowly and climb a steep incline until you reach the top and then quickly descend, screaming until you reach the bottom, and then you begin to climb slowly once again.

Repeating this pattern occurs in relationships, school, on the job and in caregiving.

Case in point:

When you begin to care for your loved one, you both adjust slowly to a new routine– until a crisis occurs and you feel yourself descending rapidly, “screaming” until the crisis abates. Then you slowly creep back up to a normal pattern once again.

Homeostasis is the scientific term for the ability to maintain a constant internal environment in response to environmental changes and it is a unifying principle of biology.

Each of you can recall some events that mirror a roller coaster in your life. From now on, when you are experiencing a crisis, remind yourself that things will resolve and mimic the pattern of homeostasis. It might not always look like we want it to but, no matter what, there will be a change, and you will return to a feeling of stability and a constant internal environment.

Remember, nothing is constant but change.


Change doesn’t have to be so hard

Change doesn’t have to be so hard

Are you dreading a conversation? Walking on eggshells because you don’t want to upset someone? Is it time to talk about how it’s not safe for them to drive, they need to work harder toward their own recovery, or thinking about nursing home options?

You told us about the conversations that you find the most difficult – and we found someone to help you have them. Wendy Marcus gives us tools to go into those potentially troublesome discussions feeling much more prepared and confident.

In the video above, you’ll learn seven caregiving strategies to help you have those difficult conversations with your loved one.