Breaking a promise

Breaking a promise

So many of us have promised our parents that we’d never put them in a home. And then, one day, we do. Putting a loved one in residential care is an incredibly difficult decision for anyone. It’s even harder when doing so breaks a promise we’ve made....
The bath time struggle

The bath time struggle

It’s a pretty common problem: the person you’re caring for is refusing to bathe. Here’s advice from other caregivers on how to keep everyone clean, safe, and happy. What’s normal to them We have to remember that more than likely “back in...
Learning to forgive myself

Learning to forgive myself

Do you feel like you’re doing the best you can, all the time? No matter how hard I try, it gets to me sometimes. Love alone isn’t enough for me to not lose my cool. Maybe it should be. Maybe it is for you. (is it?). But the pressure mounts…the bills...
Become a home care champion

Become a home care champion

America needs more caregivers for our rapidly aging population, but we don’t provide them with a living wage or adequate workplace protections. Low wages lead to high turnover and poorly trained staff. Stressed out workers come to work sick because they have no...
Clearing out the house

Clearing out the house

My mother has recently gone from taking care of my great uncle to handling the paperwork and selling his house. He was meticulous and spartan, but we found his wife’s perfume, his grandfather’s pistol (an antique more than a weapon), and other small...
A thank you to our hospice carers

A thank you to our hospice carers

October 10th was World Hospice Day. We asked our community how hospice helped them and their families. This is what they had to say: Thank You! In a world, fearful of death and dying, hospice caregivers, understand the journey in a way that other healthcare...
What do we owe abusive parents?

What do we owe abusive parents?

Every year over 500 children in the US are murdered by their parents. In fact, that number is a low estimate. Other organizations say over 1,500 children died of abuse or neglect in 2012. 80% of murdered children are under the age of 7. Half were beaten to death....
Talking about stable conditions

Talking about stable conditions

Sometimes caregiving has wild ups and downs, but other caregivers face endless days that are the same. I know people mean well, but asking if someone with an incurable disease is feeling better wears on my nerves. Sometimes I find myself wanting to let people know...
The cost of unpaid caregiving

The cost of unpaid caregiving

People are starting to talk about caregiving. A recent Forbes article highlighted how 40 million family caregivers in the US are putting their own careers on hold to provide unpaid care — sometimes for decades. As a result these family caregivers could find...
Life after caregiving

Life after caregiving

For so many of us, our old life ended when we became a caregiver. What happens when our time as a caregiver ends? My mother just passed away and I’m at a loss. I’ve been taking care of her for seven years, my life revolved around her. Don’t know what...
Dealing with unsupportive family

Dealing with unsupportive family

Are your family members leaving you alone to manage your parents’ healthcare needs? How have you responded to it? Have you tried to get them to become more involved? Have you accepted the situation or are you boiling inside? Share your response in the comments...
Dealing with aggression

Dealing with aggression

What do you do with an elderly person who is aggressive? Here are tips from our community forums: Keep your cool When a patient is being aggressive, use a calm, but firm tone of voice – it’s fine to take a moment to collect yourself if you need to – and...
The ideal waiting room

The ideal waiting room

The waiting room starts to feel like our home away from home. All too many waiting rooms are terrible spaces to spend time in. Architects, designers, and office managers take note – here’s what caregivers would like to see in your office: a variety of...
60 million different stories

60 million different stories

They estimate that there are between 60 and 90 million family caregivers in the US. There are about 6.5 million professional caregivers, according to the US Bureau of Labor Statistics. There are millions more who have served as a caregiver at some point during their...