Rights of passage

Rights of passage

“We’re keeping an eye on it.” I knew my mom had an ongoing gynecological issue that was being ‘monitored’ by her primary care physician, and I was content to hear her standard answer whenever I’d ask what her doctor said about her condition after her yearly check-ups....
Chronic Illness When You’re Twins

Chronic Illness When You’re Twins

Growing up, Robin Melamed and Tara Liebnick, now 45, were typical twins. They shared the same group of friends and more often than not, they completed each other’s sentences. In college, they joined the same sorority. Then, in their thirties and within a matter of...
Help! I’m trapped and terribly resentful

Help! I’m trapped and terribly resentful

I am the sole caregiver for my disabled husband of 49 years. He is diabetic, on dialysis three days a week, a double amputee, and has no feeling in arms and hands. Fingers are part amputated and part gnarled. His hands are almost useless. Before he became truly...
Wheelchair Blues

Wheelchair Blues

You’d think I’d have gotten used to it after four years, ten neurosurgical operations, drug-resistant infections and falls in the middle of the night, but it’s lifting up my husband’s wheelchair to put it into the car that I hate the most. The wheelchair’s handlebars...
When we sent our son away

When we sent our son away

Diane Gill Morris was 25 when her first son, Kenny, was born. About 15 months later, she and her husband realized that he’d stopped talking. By the time Kenny was officially diagnosed with autism, Diane’s second son, Theo, was eight months old. Less than a year later,...
There for him

There for him

His independence taken by stroke; he fights back and I am there for him.   Near, aware, anticipating his needs, but reaching out only as he calls.   Standing silently by as he struggles to regain all that he has lost   Recognizing little steps, slow...