The Guilt Will Bury You Alive, If You Let It

The Guilt Will Bury You Alive, If You Let It

Guilt. Everyone feels it. Everyone talks about it. Everyone tries their best to avoid it by doing the right thing. But, no one ever tells you that there really is no way around it. Sometimes, no matter how many good things you do, you still find something to feel...
This App Is Like an Uber for Grandkids

This App Is Like an Uber for Grandkids

Nilsa Torres, 70, and her frail 91-year-old mother Ignacia Rodriguez rarely left the modest two-bedroom apartment they share in this Gulf Coast retirement community. Torres is Rodriquez’s daughter, but also her primary caregiver — a relationship complicated by the...
Treading Water

Treading Water

It’s easier to sink than swim. That’s what they don’t tell you. But sometimes it’s hard to tell the difference between sinking and floating stagnant. Caregiving threw me from the stagnation I succumbed to. Suddenly, it wasn’t about me anymore. The focus was to get my...

But it was upon her death that I realized, in addition to being my best friend, she was my Death Buddy: the one person I could talk to about absolutely anything without fear that she would judge me, find me weird, or rush to change the subject — even if the subject...