How I keep going

How I keep going

Resilience. Tenacity. Strength. Toughness. Whatever you want to call it, caregivers need it. It’s that thing about your personality where shit is exploding all around you and you just roll with it. Roll up your sleeves and get to it, every day, no matter what....
18 years ago, Caregiving Forced My Brother to Drop Out of College. Today, He Finally Graduates.

18 years ago, Caregiving Forced My Brother to Drop Out of College. Today, He Finally Graduates.

This Saturday my older brother will graduate magna cum laude from Volunteer State Community College with his Associate’s degree in Computer Information Technology. While every degree is special, this one is particularly significant. Earning this degree was a...
Guilt vs. Grace

Guilt vs. Grace

In the face of overwhelming odds, we put ourselves in an often impossible situation, and keep doing it armed with little else than love—while spending blood, sweat, and treasure. I wouldn’t hang around somebody who treats me the way I treat myself, and I’ll bet...
Laughing Until You Die

Laughing Until You Die

Humor May Be Antidote For Pain Of Death For Patients, Survivors Just weeks before Christmas some years ago, Shirley Rapp and her family faced the devastating news that she had what appeared to be a terminal illness. But that didn’t stop Rapp from wanting to do one...
The End of Regret

The End of Regret

Unfortunately for many of us, the pain of losing somebody we love, or people we have had a mixed relationship with, can be made worse by the presence of regrets. Mourners can be left struggling with thoughts like, “What could I have done differently?” “I wish I had...
Taking a personal inventory

Taking a personal inventory

As caregivers, we so often forget about ourselves. Sometimes it’s helpful to take a few minutes to take a personal inventory. Reflecting on today How did the day go? What challenges did I endure? What success did I experience? What did I do for myself today?...
Are You Staying Hydrated?

Are You Staying Hydrated?

For most of us, being a caregiver is more like running a marathon than a sprint, and few things can dehydrate you faster than the relentless demands that come with this role. I’m not just talking physically, but emotionally and spiritually, as well. Those oft-ignored...
More to dying than meets the eye

More to dying than meets the eye

Those who work with the dying are familiar with patients seeing long deceased loved ones, angelic beings, even hearing music and comforting voices as the patient nears death. Deathbed phenomena have been documented in the days, weeks, and months before death since the...

Beyond closure

Nancy Berns is a sociologist at Drake University. She looks at the space between grief and closure and has found that not only is closure a fabricated concept, it is doing us more harm than good. Guest AuthorThe Caregiver Space accepts contributions from experts for...

Music makes dementia patients alive

A professional flutist, Toshiro Mitsutomi, developed 3 tips to evoke dementia patients’ memory and their life successfully during his 40years career: 1)play close 2)play at the same eye level 3)looking in the eye while playing. He actually demonstrated it by...