Getting Ready

Getting Ready

Standing at the door to my bedroom, my father stood in his dark blue suit tapping his foot while staring at his sixteen-year-old daughter. “Jackie, hurry up. We’re going to be late,” he ordered. In the Madden family, punctuality was right up there with perfect manners...
Gourmand

Gourmand

Although many things have changed about my father in the last few years, his willfulness is not one of them. Having spent his career as a sailboat captain, he’s used to being master of his domain, the boat being the tiny universe in which he reigned. When he gave...
Love and Lapses

Love and Lapses

It’s hard to change roles after living a certain way for decades. Dementia — and aging in general — forces our roles with certain family members to undergo dramatic changes. Producer B.A. Parker started recording her calls with her father because she...
Payday

Payday

If you have had the same, unpaid caregiver – a spouse, relative, or devoted friend – for twenty-two years, like I have, you can’t help but feel guilt-ridden about 80% of the time. The other 20%, you are a team, working together, celebrating the small victories....