As a caregiver, my life was filled with unknowns.

Would the questions that caused my sleepless nights be the problems I’d face in the light of day? How could I know what my life would be like when my caregiving days came to an end—I knew that would soon be the case. There were no miraculous cures waiting.

Should I pray for more time or less pain?

Steve and his mother Sylvia would die and I’d be left—but with what? My life was consumed by their cancers. What would be left? Self-care, sure, but what else? Tonight I decided to clear out a drawer in my nightstand and found a “quotable card” I must have left for myself to discover when I most needed it.

It has a proverb I want to share with you:

“Just when the caterpillar thought the world was over, it became a butterfly.”

Enough said.

About Adrienne Gruberg

Adrienne Gruberg is a former family caregiver and founder of The Caregiver Space. After six years of caring for her late husband and mother-in-law she conceived of an online support space all caregivers could come to. Adrienne holds a BFA from Boston University. She founded AYA Creative in 1982, an award winning graphic design, marketing and advertising company. Her design training has helped shape the website and her personal and professional experience continues to inform and influence the caregiver centric support experience she has created at The Caregiver Space.