• pentim posted an update 3 months, 1 week ago

    Caregiver, or is it simple wife, husband, daughter, son, brother, sister, mother, father or friend.
    17 years ago, this summer my husband had a stroke at the young age of 50. My question is did I come a caregiver or am I just being a wife. When we marry, most people take the vows: to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and health, until death do us part. Nowhere does it say till you get sick then I leave or complain about having to help you when you become disabled or sick.
    Don’t get me wrong it has not been easy but I feel like when I share with people that I am a caregiver their first response is I am sorry I know that is so hard. Anyone who is a caregiver knows how hard it is but what I want to know why is it so hard?
    I can only speak for myself but it has been hard because there is no help and because we not only have to care for our loved ones but we must fight the insurance companies and the medical field that are controlled by the insurance companies. Then there is the friends and family that let you down, where are they? Caring for a loved one who has become sick or disabled would be so much easier if we had help. I have been around the caregiving world a while now and almost every article I read talks about ask for help the first step to being a better caregiver is asking for help. Ask who for help is my question?
    And lastly, what about the Churches, the numbers have grown too big to ignore. More than 65 million people, 29 percent of the US population, provide care for a chronically ill, disabled, or aged family member—a child with special needs, a spouse with cancer, a parent with dementia, a family member with schizophrenia. So how will our churches serve these families—through all ages and phases of care? And it’s not just about those who are afflicted. What about those who are struggling to care for them? I believe the best way to minister to the person who is chronically ill or disabled, start meeting the needs of the caregiver.